I know that as a Christian we are suppose to be the hands and feet of Jesus and that we are to love others and treat them kindly. I know that we are to fight evil with good. And I know that we should choose to act in loving ways in all situations, treating people how we would want to be treated. BUT DANG!!!! Do you know how hard that is sometimes. I’m sure all of us have dealt with “hard to deal with” people, and had to endure some stressful situations with others. And I am sure that many, if not all, of us have handled people and situations in the wrong way. But how many of you have handled people and situations the best way that you know how, being totally selfless, trying to do what you feel Jesus would want you to do, but end up allowing yourself to be mistreated, taking advantage of, or disrespected? And how many times are we suppose to allow someone to treat us that way? The bible says that we should forgive our fellow man 70 times 7 or something like that, but does that mean that we forgive and allow that person to continue to do it? I mean Jesus wouldn’t ever turn his back on someone, no matter what they did or how many times that they did it.
I know that we can’t allow ourselves to be treated poorly by others all the time and there is a line that we have to draw or people will continue to do to us what we allow them to do. I know that there are certain ways that we can approach situations and handle them in correct ways. But I struggle with knowing that I am suppose to handle things a certain way, and yet, out of fear of arguing or being misunderstood I just don’t deal with them at all. I let it go on until it has got me in a pit and depressed and I explode. I want to have conversations that will handle the situation but I do not want to argue or be yelled at or have any kind of tension. So because of that fear I will often choose to not say anything at all, while the feelings of being disrespected, taken advantage of, used, and not valued build up in my heart. Then after becoming stressed out and weighed down for however long I will explode and let it all out in a ungodly manner. I cause things that could have been avoided if I would have spoke up long ago. Am I the only person that does that?
There are balance and boundaries that we have to have with people and in situations. Being the hands and feet of Jesus does not mean to be walked all over and taken advantage of. We should treat others with respect and honor, just as we should be treated that way. We can tell others in a godly manner that we will not allow them to treat us that way and that we expect to be treated kindly. And there may even be some people that we will have to choose to love from a distance if they do not want to treat us fairly. I think that standing up for ourselves in that way is actually standing up for what is right. And Jesus wants us to stand up for what is right and godly.
If you are doing something that you know Jesus wants you to do and it involves difficult people make sure that you set those boundaries from the get go. If you need to have a difficult conversation with a difficult person but have a fear of how they are going to react, you have to have that conversation no matter how they may react. If a situation needs to be cleared up with a difficult person, do not let it go on until it has completely drained you and got you into a pit. We can do Godly things with and for ungodly acting people and it not suck the life out of us. We are fighting evil with good, and it is going to be a struggle, but we are not fighting alone and we will receive a reward for our struggle.