Judgement: watch how you judge

    Matthew 7:1,2,&12 “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The same standards that you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.; Do to others whatever you would like them to so to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law of the prophets.”NIV

As I read chapter 7 of Matthew I remember a certain situation that taught me exactly what these scriptures are talking about and taught me a valuable lesson. I had a friend that had some hand wrist problems that would cause her a great deal of pain at times. One day she and I were supposed to go shopping and she called me and told me that she couldn’t go because she was hurting so bad. I was really looking forward to getting out of the house and spending some time with a friend so I was really let down when she canceled on me. I called my mom later that day and told her about what had happened. I told her that there was no way that she was hurting so bad that she couldn’t go because my legs, feet, and ankles hurt bad too and I was going to go! My mom said,”alright Mandie, you better watch what you say. You don’t know her pain”! And I said,”Yeah, Ma, but I’m doing this and this and I’ve got that and that wrong with me so I know that there is no way that it can be as bad as she claims it to be”. I weren’t saying that she didn’t hurt at all, I just didn’t think that she hurt as bad as she said she did.

      Well about two weeks later I woke up one morning with my hands and wrist hurting so bad that I couldn’t move them. At first I thought I must have slept on them wrong or something. But after about a week of this happening I made a doctor appointment and found out that I had carpal tunnel syndrome. That is exactly what my friend had in her right arm. He gave me wrist braces to wear at night and told me that surgery may be required if it didn’t get better. A couple of days past with the problem getting worse and worse to the point that I couldn’t even drive anymore.

As I was sitting on the side of the bed one evening the situation that I had with my friend and the conversation that I had with my mom came to my mind and God said to me,”See…..Do you get it now”? I immediately picked up the phone and called my friend and told her that I needed to confess and apologize to her and I told her what I said about her when she cancelled on me that day. I felt so guilty and wrong for judging her and not believing in her. I swore that I would never do that again because we don’t know the severity of something unless we experience it for ourselves. I want you to know that it has been a little over a year now and I have not experienced that pain or had problems with my hands and wrist since I confessed and apologized to my friend!

Any time that I begin to criticise or judge someone that situation comes to mind and I immediately humble myself and say,”Now Mandie, you are not that person and you can not judge them”!! I thank God for that experience because it has taught me to have more compassion and empathy for others. And I also seen the power of the Lord. You never know someone else’s pain rather it be physical or emotional unless you have experienced it first hand and even then you have no right to judge because we all are different and handle things differently. So think about what you say before you say because that could be you!!!